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by Mark Sircus Director 2010-2012 from IMVA Website
The Tears of the Melting Heart
Every tear that your heart sheds is a
golden drop of sun.
The most obvious confirmation that we are in fact moving in and through the doorway to our deeper beings are our vulnerable tears.
Not the tears of self-pity, but the simple welling up feeling that almost always accompanies the crossing and crisscrossing of the barriers between the heart and the head. These tears are more like a divine fluid.
The tears of the heart are precious and the pure in heart always cherish the liquid river of tears.
My Tears Flow My Being Opens Totally
Dr. Judith Orloff wrote,
The heart is the only thing strong
enough
Emotional tears heal the heart by returning us to it. Thus crying makes us feel better even if we are not better or the situation is not improving.
Dr. Orloff says,
The Intelligence, Love and Power of the
heart acts
Deep in the nuclear core of the heart is a love of life and a love of love.
Some beings come here to earth with such a strong heart that no circumstance can beat it out of them. In them is a furnace of heart energy and like the sun it will not be denied though they might have to go through great struggles to release and express this energy.
Though we all have hearts, the problem
with life comes with the repression of the light and radiance of the
heart. What we are born with hardly remains by the time we reach
adulthood. And the path of regaining what was lost is a path of
lifelong learning, growth, and often-painful experience.
The grace of the heart offers an inner
tranquility and peace that the mind by itself rarely possesses.
When we are vulnerable we put away the
fancy airs
Both western medicine and modern psychology have not been able to come up with solid concepts that explain why some people recover from illness and others do not.
There does seem to be a force in most
everyone that operates routinely to protect and promote health,
whose absence seems to leave us vulnerable. This explains, on some
level, why one individual might suffer a relatively mild attack of a
disease like ulcerative colitis, another gets chronically crippled
by the same disease, and a third might decline rapidly from the
first attack and go on to die from the same thing another recovers
from quickly.
There are some individuals who can become extremely sick, and because of an exceptionally “strong will to grow,” they heal. And there are people who suffer from mild illnesses, who lack this will, and despite the best of treatment and care, languish inside of their illness.
They will not show significant
improvements, or if they do, will end up bouncing from one illness
to another.
The most important key to finding the
love of the heart
We cannot begin to flow towards another person or towards our own higher or inner being until the psychic skin covering the heart is removed.
The tears of the melting heart are the
key to disperse the cobwebs of our mind releasing us into the
mysterious depths of our hearts, so let your tears flow to purify
yourself of your mental stress and negativity.
Our real self is freed from the iron
grip our ego normally holds over heart consciousness.
When we open our hearts we are
surrendering ourselves
Most of the materials in this essay are from my HeartHealth book, which I wrote 12 years ago when I was living at the ends of the earth in the interior heartland of Brazil, where I am now building my Sanctuary project.
Having a strong open heart will help enormously in dealing with world events that are overtaking our race.
To open to our pain is to open to our vulnerability, and in reality this is often the easiest and quickest way to expand our capacity for love and joy. The heroic challenge on this earth is to reopen to the totality of our heart after it has closed. It might seem strange connecting pain and suffering to love and joy.
But if we cannot experience one we cannot experience the other.
Feelings of the Heart
They say our eyes are the windows into our souls. We can often see the pure heart in animals.
This picture says a lot and we will not
find such eyes in our leaders or bankers or doctors who inject
vaccines full of poisons into our children. We are facing a total
crisis in modern civilization simply because of a great lack of
heart. Greed, selfishness and separation have ruled, and so events
have to take their natural course.
And what can we say about the nuclear
power industry and its supporters that are still beating our ears
with the obscene rant that nuclear energy is safe even after they
have opened up a hell on earth in Japan?
You cannot be human without feeling.
And this is the reason some people think that we have aliens among us, reptilians who would eat us alive for breakfast!
Well okay, perhaps that is going a bit
far but the point is that we have among us creatures with no feeling
of compassion for us humans. We normally call them sociopaths and
psychopaths and they are the way they are because they have no
capacity to feel, to empathize or to have remorse for what they do
to others.
When I was a young man and first lived
at the University of the Trees in Boulder Creek, California, someone
said to me that I had a big heart. I looked down at my chest then
behind me trying to understand what they were talking about. At that
time I was stuck in my head though I had the capacity to release a
river of tears while watching movies.
He routinely mentioned the heart but I still only understood what he meant conceptually.
The head is just a peripheral.
I write the way I do because I follow my heart, not my head.
It is an irresistible force that drives
me - facing me with choice-less choices like the publication of my
essay yesterday, More Bizarre Than Science Fiction.
Since the heart is known to be the seat of feelings and the most intense emotions, knowledge of how our thoughts and feelings can be harmonized and balanced is crucial.
Feelings are our most essential guides in life but emotional education and emotional intelligence are some of the areas and subjects most neglected in modern human existence.
Emotional intelligence comes with an
appreciation
Most people do not have to be told that loving, positive feelings are somehow related to health and happiness and as such seek and hunger for the most positive expressions of life.
Even though our world is full of
suffering, most people would rather feel loving and appreciative
than resentful and depressed.
David Reynolds, an American exponent of Japanese Morita psychotherapy said,
We have our feelings
Books have been published that speak about emotional intelligence and that within the heart is a secret power that can transform our lives.
We’ve all been told to follow our hearts but this has seemed almost impossible.
Life stripped of feelings is a life
stripped of meaning.
The heart has always been known for more than its capacity to pump blood and Chinese and Ayurveda medical systems have known this for thousands of years.
The knowing and feeling center of the
heart
The heart offers a deep wisdom and intuitive intelligence that is centered on its fantastic ability to network with a certain level of life.
The heart is the perfect network
solution because it is tuned to the universal constant of love and
openness, cooperation, caring, appreciation, honesty and truth. It
has the capacity for clear perception and also has the capacity to
cut through the dualities and paradoxes of life with a speed and
ease that can only be called super intelligent.
It is in touch with the whole, with three hundred and sixty degrees of awareness.
“Live in the heart and forget the head.
Saint-Exupéry wrote,
A dive into the heart opens up a normally invisible world; it broadens our awareness and in general seems to know which way to go in life.
The heart seems to be able to see and feel far ahead and be able to weigh many things at once in its small fist; whereas the mind is flooded by contradictory thoughts that often just lead to confusion.
The awake and aware heart is at the
center
In the area of that ten-ounce muscle that pumps your blood is a secret that all the ancient cultures and the great philosophers and religious thinkers have always been aware of.
Though the physical heart is the most amazing organ, beating billions of times within the context of a lifetime, its non-physical components are even more fantastic.
A heart full of love, beating in joy and harmony with life is the true miracle and wonder to behold.
Awareness is heightened as we become
more
Within the context of heart intelligence, the “negative” side of life takes on “positive” meaning for the true heart does not make such strict distinctions between the positive and the negative and can see the positive in the negative.
The heart is not as self-obsessed with itself as the mind tends to be and one of its very sources of increased happiness is the freedom from self-obsession.
It cares more for others and this is a natural joy. It is willing to sacrifice more for those it loves the most.
Inside the purified and free heart is a
flow, a river,
The heart offers us an increased mental clarity and intuition. It usually can see what is best in a situation.
Then it will act and do whatever, take any risk, plan any action if that is what is called for to preserve either itself or those who it loves. The intuition is the fastest mental faculty and when we follow it we often act without thinking.
Most parents know of the intuitive heart link because of their children and most would not take the time to think about stepping out in front of a car to save the life of their child. The heart cannot stand by idly when others whom it loves are about to get hurt. The heart offers us the most natural of all anchors.
It rests at the bottom of unlimited compassion and passion; and it is connected to the universal intelligence of love, the creative and the receptive, the forceful and the gentle.
Our feelings are actually more important
than our
A being that knows and loves its own heart nature is not afraid of life and not so afraid to act and follow the prompting of its own inner nature.
Hearts are guided by love and as such sustain a positive perspective in life, balance their emotions as opposed to judging them, and access an intuitive flow in day-to-day existence, even in the midst of difficulties and the natural sufferings of life.
Tell your heart that the fear of
suffering
To heart centered people even the most difficult problems in life are seen as challenges and stimulants for growth and evolution.
Instead of constantly reacting and crying about circumstances, the heart helps people to make coherent sense of their challenges. The heart is the organ of change and it is the best navigational device we have.
It knows what changes need to be made in our life and if it does not it bends over backward to find out.
Our feelings are navigational beacons
that play a crucial role
I now feel inspired to share on a
different level. I don’t think there is anyone out there reading my
materials that can possibly say that I have not warned people
sufficiently about the radiation and a broad array of issues that
are confronting us. I have done my job - fulfilled my
responsibilities of communicating truths as they present themselves
to my consciousness.
HeartHealth is an introspective book taking the reader on a journey, a cave dive into their own heart center whereas The Marriage of Souls is about relationships that happen between open and vulnerable hearts. I never felt that it was quite time to publish The Marriage of Souls but it is hidden inside my Survival Medicine compendium.
Someday I will crack open that work and
bring it up to date but in these next few weeks I will share
extensively from HeartHealth:
Do we really understand the heart?
The most difficult subject, after all, is the most simple.
It is hard for the mind, which loves argument and complexity, to enter the kingdom of heaven, which was Christ’s way of describing the kingdom of the heart. The deepest mysteries and greatest challenges lie ahead for those brave enough to investigate the hidden depths of the heart.
The heart lives in the fourth dimension and our three-dimensional minds have little ability to cope with its unpredictable ways.
All hearts are in love with the same
truth, the
When we say heart we are not talking about the chambered, muscular organ in vertebrates that pumps blood.
In spiritual terms the heart represents the totality of our being; both the conscious and unconscious self. It has traditionally been thought to be the vital center of one’s being, emotions, and sensibilities and is seen as the repository of one’s deepest and sincerest feelings. The heart is strongly associated with our capacity for sympathy, generosity, compassion, love and affection.
When we say someone has heart we mean that they are warm and loving, tender and open.
The true nature of pure heart
The word heart is also associated with courage, resolution and fortitude.
These are all qualities of being that
measure our firmness of will or the callousness required to carry
out an unpleasant task or responsibility, qualities of heart that
contrast with the above, with tenderness and compassion. This side
of the heart demonstrates a tougher kind of love, a compassionate
ruthlessness, a kind of love that disciplines a child, a kind of
love present when a surgeon needs to operate without an anesthetic.
The new age is associated with the more yin or soft side of the heart and the manifestation of love is seen only in niceties, tenderness, and softly spoken words.
Many people judge this side of the heart as being something cruel, evil, and dark, never knowing that those energies are hiding behind their own judgments. The heart is not just mushy and sentimental. It is a vast reservoir of intelligence and power.
Within the heart is the trinity of love, power, and intelligence, all of which must eventually be balanced to arrive at the place we call pure heart.
We judge, love doesn’t.
There are numerous idioms in our languages that express the deeper realities surrounding the heart.
“At heart” means coming from one’s deepest feelings; “from the bottom of my heart” reflects the most sincere of feelings; “in one’s heart of hearts” infers the seat of one’s truest feelings, “heart and soul,” means completely and entirely, “in a half-hearted manner” refers to us giving only part of our attention or awareness to something, and “to wear one’s heart on one’s sleeve” means to show one’s feelings clearly and openly by one’s behavior.
Also we have the expression, “with all my heart,” which expresses one’s great willingness or pleasure for doing something, one’s devotion or complete commitment to manifesting something.
The heart represents our
In the languages of the world you will find countless references to the feelings of the heart all alluding to some hidden power, to a magnificent energy or force that has the power to change our lives.
The true hidden power of the heart is
love and this is the core frequency of our natural beings. The heart
is something we simply feel; it is not something we think about
logically.
We often refer to this as “having our feelings hurt.” If we cannot communicate those natural feelings of hurt we fall into chains of thoughts and reactions that take us into separation and into pain and suffering.
This is the crux of life on earth.
The heart is warm and is a light and
power
Part of the sadness of life is that people are completely cut off from their heart center.
People crave the deep feelings of the heart and hate the emptiness that is left when we close ourselves to its love. People are deluded when they think romance alone will provide the answer, but romance is a mirror of the feelings that flow through us when the heart suddenly opens like a tidal wave.
We will begin to understand the heart and why so many of us suffer such heartbreak when we dive deeply into an investigation of the rapids we must negotiate to get to its deeper, stiller waters.
Beings in union love each other, touch
The heart, when open, is tuned to deep feelings of tenderness, warmth and compassion. But it is equally tuned to a sense of power and intelligence to act and to react and to its ability to communicate with others.
This is the cornerstone of heart intelligence.
The heart knows how to communicate,
When the heart is only partially open we can only suffer from the conflicts between the head and the heart, for the partially open heart is subject to the domination of the ego and all of its trips.
And when we first enter the universe of the heart and promise to love only one, we naturally fall into the trap of possession. In human terms it is natural to possess when one loves. The word longing and being combine to form the word belonging. We often stake our entire sense of being on these feelings and as such we are completely vulnerable to the feelings of loss.
When people are deeply possessive and attached to what is loved the suffering of loss brings a loss of will to live. These powerful feelings run through and through the heart and have a tremendous effect on our entire vibration.
And these energies tend to destroy the vibrancy of the heart’s physical tissues if they are intense or persist long enough. It is no accident that women, whose husbands die after 40 or 50 years of marriage, often suffer a heart attack and die themselves within a year.
The medical establishment calls this the broken heart syndrome.
It is well known that the heart can
Since the most basic characteristic of our heart is its capacity to feel, this also means its most basic capacity can be seen in its capacity to suffer.
Thus it can be said that when we avoid suffering we avoid the heart. To avoid suffering is to avoid life yet this is what we do. The way to avoid many types of heartbreak or emotional kinds of suffering is to open wider to love.
The more we love the less we suffer if that love is spread among many souls.
The Heart Is The
Vulnerability of Being The cornerstone of my life and my work is vulnerability.
Seventeen years ago I wrote this chapter
about vulnerability and it remains the center of both my psychology
and spirituality, which is found in my HeartHealth and Marriage of
Souls books. When I say that the heart is the vulnerability of
being, I am making a direct connection between what we are calling
the heart and our pure being.
The word vulnerable is also synonymous with the words openness and exposure. When a person is truly vulnerable, there is an unobstructed entrance or view to the person’s heart, being and soul. In the strongest or most enlightened person, there is no protecting or concealing cover because the person needs none.
Such people carry themselves in full view of others because they are not afraid of being hurt, because they are not afraid to suffer.
he most important key to finding
Our ego (our separate self) is that very edifice that we have fabricated to protect our hearts. It is the wall that all beings on this planet create to protect themselves from being hurt.
We have incarnated onto this planet where all beings have suffered the pain of separation but we are promised salvation. Pain and suffering have a purpose and when we can get in touch with that purpose, our path in life tends to straighten itself out.
Or at least we can eventually learn which way to go to begin our journey that one day will take us back to the full light of happiness.
One way out of suffering is
Hurt is something our beings naturally feel.
Hurt is the appropriate response of the human heart when attacked or misunderstood. When we betray the innocent and vulnerable nature of the pure heart, we cause hurt. When we are born we have a great capacity to be hurt.
Babies and young children are totally at the mercy of their environment - they are totally vulnerable - but they slowly lose this after years of repeatedly being hurt and misunderstood. We slowly lose the vulnerability of being as we erect our ego or mental separate self.
When Christ said that we needed to be born again he was referring to the reversing of this process.
When we betray the innocent and
vulnerable nature
When we are vulnerable we stop putting on fancy airs and we drop our obsession with our self-image that we hope looks a little better than we actually feel.
Any kind of spiritual self-image automatically blocks our vulnerability, thus cutting off the heart and blocking us from the very thing that we want - love. When we do expose ourselves, we become psychologically naked. This happens only when our defenses are down, when we are not worried that others will attack or judge us. Then we can be just who we are.
But this is difficult because that is exactly what happens when we just are. People want us to be or feel or think something different.
The paradox of vulnerability is that, though we can only be vulnerable when we are not worried that others will judge us, being vulnerable means openness to such an attack. In human relations no situation is completely safe when it comes to our vulnerabilities.
In the beginning, when we first learn to open ourselves, it is prudent to pick the most gentle and caring people we can find to whom we can open our hearts.
What he was talking about was that childlike quality
That is why it takes courage and strength to be our naked vulnerable self.
The path of vulnerability is for the strongest and it is for the most humble, for those who remain closest to the ground because they are not secretly hoping to look a little better than they are. Humble and vulnerable people do not walk around with a self-image that needs protecting; they feel what they feel and they share what they feel without shame.
As we become more and more practiced in our vulnerability, our hearts expand and grow.
The heart can grow so large and strong that eventually it cannot be hurt too badly. That is the strongest person, totally open to whatever comes. This is actually the egoless space, having no expectations and laying no demands on the universe.
We open ourselves without fear and take whatever comes.
To treasure vulnerable love
After many years or incarnations of being closed in the heart, being vulnerable to other human beings can be terrifying.
When we fall in love the first thing we
do is open our heart, exposing our sensitivities, vulnerabilities;
giving power to someone to wound or reject us with their
insensitivity’s or selfishness. This is why so many people are
afraid to fall in love. In any situation, until the heart is used to
being open, vulnerability initially feels like our heart is going to
come right up through our throats.
The coolness of the separate personality is swept away as familiar ground moves from under our feet. Though most fear this moment, it is such a release, such a lightening of our load. Our real self is freed from the iron grip our ego normally holds over heart consciousness. Most egos are so rooted in their separateness that nothing short of the full fires of romance is capable of reducing oneself to the vulnerable self.
And then we usually make ourselves vulnerable only to the one person we have dared to fall in love with, still excluding others; thus our vulnerability remains slightly incomplete.
The head never really allows the heart
to love.
We cannot begin to flow towards another person or towards our own higher or inner being until the psychic skin covering the heart is removed.
Once this occurs the risk is great because we enter that vulnerable space and the games from our head disappear. We lose our ego’s protection, that hateful sense of separation is released and we feel that good feeling flowing. We crave that feeling of aliveness that comes from opening up. We feel safe once we are in this space.
A welling-up feeling fills our insides, a warmth and sense of caring or being cared for.
When the vulnerability of being meets up
with an equal vulnerability of
The pure in heart treasure vulnerability above all vibrations.
A person tuned to love cherishes this
space because he or she knows intuitively that this is what is most
needed in human relations.
The purest heart has no mind.
The gift of vulnerable love far transcends the mental sharing of spiritual concepts and stories no matter how profound they are.
The head normally can’t wait to advise. The heart, when listening to the inner world of another, listens, listens more, asks questions that draw a person out further, and thus shows a loving interest in the inner world of the other.
Such a heart actually has the ability to get into the inner world of another because the heart feels and experiences no separation. When listening perfectly to the being of another, our being has the capacity to commune, to be at one with that other.
The reunion of beings beyond the normal
separate space of ego consciousness is a very beautiful thing when
it happens.
My tears flow.
Vulnerability must not be confused with mental openness.
It is very possible that someone could share the most intimate details of their life and still not be vulnerable. The difference lies in the vibration. Often in the beginning of relationships, people find it easier to be vulnerable about hurts and pains from the past when in fact their real vulnerability has something more to do with feelings being generated in the moment.
Expressing love or sexual attraction is often the most vulnerable issue at hand. Expressing these feelings leaves us exposed to others. When we share these feelings our relationships are quickly taken to deep and often intimate levels.
And in these spaces, though we may
suffer, we grow.
The purpose of our life here on this
earth
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