1. Get present
When you find yourself in the midst of a worrying situation,
stop. Go inwards, and ask yourself “what is wrong in this
moment?” usually, nothing is wrong right now. It is when we
stray off into past regrets and future concerns that anxiety
kicks in. Don’t deny the problems you are facing, but don’t get
lost in them either: being present will bring you greater
alertness and inner security, allowing you to face challenges
more objectively and with greater calm.
2. Laugh at yourself
When you realize you are obsessing with a concern or worry,
laugh at yourself. Just look up at the sky and think, “Oh! I’m
doing it again!” When you don’t take yourself so seriously, you
immediately disarm the worry and anxiety of the intellect. This
will help you take stock of the situation and reassess things
more clearly.
3. Go with the Flow
As adults, we have lost the ability to flow. We cling to the
idea of what we want, and fight against the current of life,
because we think that what we want is what is going to make us
happy, but that’s not the truth. Our happiness depends upon the
choices we make in each moment. Am I choosing to be happy, or am
I fighting for what I want? Am I attached to an idea or am I
willing to flow?
4. Take responsibility for your own
happiness
If only he wasn’t so… then I could be happy! Sound familiar? We
are so dependent on the behavior of those around us, that
whenever they aren’t the way we want them to be, we suffer. If
your happiness depends on other people, you are setting yourself
up for disappointment. People change all the time, and things
are never exactly how we expect. Stop trying to change others so
that you can be happy. Instead, focus on praising and
appreciating the people around you.
