by Nanice Ellis
When everyone you know and love is asleep and you're the only one
awake, the world can sure seem lonely and even unfriendly at times.
While the concept of awakening can have many definitions, in a
can be summarized as the rising of consciousness, and this
means that regardless of path or process, the more conscious we
become, the more we awaken.
Although the process of awakening can be a wonderful thing, it can
also be quite challenging.
In fact, if you're one of
the first in your family or community to awaken, "coming out" as a
conscious being can be one of the most difficult things you ever do!
Not surprisingly, many conscious people choose to hide, in what I
call the "Consciousness Closet."
In fact, there are three very good reasons that conscious people
hide in the Consciousness Closet!
Reason #1 - Avoid Judgment!
More than likely, if we're the only one who is conscious in our
family or community and everyone we know thinks we're crazy,
rather than subjecting ourselves to judgment and rejection, it
might seem easier to suppress our conscious thoughts and ideas,
and simply hide in the Consciousness Closet.
Reason #2 - Loss of Connection!
Maybe we're not afraid of being judged and alienated by our
sleepy friends or family, but rather, we no longer have any
interest in discussing the same old mundane or materialistic
topics with unconscious people.
Reason #3 - Relating to Sleepy Folks is Depleting!
While our sleepy friends and family are still trying to relate
to us from an unconscious wave length (because that is all they
know), if we mirror their energy, we can easily slip back into
unconsciousness, and since this can be very depleting, we might
choose to hide in the Consciousness Closet where we can
avoid these relationships and protect our energy.
Whether we hide in the
Consciousness Closet in order to avoid negative reactions from
unconscious people or because we don't want to feel bored or
depleted, sooner or later, we have to ask ourselves,
how conscious can we
really be while suppressing our True Selves?
Furthermore, if the
majority of conscious people choose to hide in the Consciousness
how can global
Cannot Evolve in the Closet!
While many conscious people feel that they're here to make a
difference in the world, this cannot happen while suppressing
consciousness and hiding in the closet!
Additionally, we might
want to consider that as one of the first to awaken, it's quite
possible that we have an unspoken responsibility to help our
families and communities wake-up.
Therefore, rather than suppressing our expanded consciousness around
those less conscious, maybe it's time to openly share our views,
experiences and knowledge, and when appropriate, maybe even provide
Although many people are
not yet willing to wake-up, you might actually be surprised by who
Before we continue, however, let's be clear that regardless of
whether a person is awake or asleep, it has absolutely no bearing on
his or her worth, and this means that no one is any better or worse
than anyone else.
Since everyone is
inevitably waking up, one's level of consciousness simply indicates
their current "location" on the journey of awakening.
Come Out of
the Closet and Be Conscious!
So, if you're ready to come out of the Consciousness Closet and help
others awaken, it's important to participate in conscious
communication and connection.
Therefore, you must know two important things:
#1 - Consciously
Connect and Communicate
As the more conscious person in a relationship, if you want to
connect, it's your job to cultivate the connection.
Now, I'll be the
first to admit that engaging in a conversation with an
unconscious person can feel like nails scratching on a chalk
However, it only
feels this way because we are perceiving the person through our
own judgment, and, therefore, if we want to communicate with
someone less conscious, it's necessary to drop all judgments.
Moreover, keeping in mind that every time we push, preach or
project our views about life or spirituality, we're actually
asking others to question the beliefs that have shaped their
No matter how well-meaning you might be, if you challenge or
contradict a person's beliefs, they'll likely feel threatened
and close down, and if they feel judged, they'll probably become
defensive and judge in return.
miss or dismiss your new ideas or even treat you like you have
Therefore, if you want to help someone awaken, it's up to you to
create a non-judgmental space where it's safe for them to
explore new ideas.
it's impossible to connect with anyone you're looking down upon,
it's important to meet people exactly where they are, and this
means "speaking their language" and not expecting them to speak
Maybe you're thinking,
"Why do I have to
be the one making all the effort?"
Well, you are the
only one who can! You see, while people with lower consciousness
cannot move into higher consciousness until they experience a
significant shift, those with higher consciousness have a
greater capacity to relate to everyone.
Communication Rules to Follow!
Since it's usually best to approach new ideas when a person is
more open and receptive, don't launch into a potentially
controversial subject when someone is having a bad day.
wait for the right opportunity - and when you do share, follow
these simple rules:
into a debate.
like you know better.
attached to the outcome.
with people who are clearly not interested.
Don't try to
convince someone that their lives will improve if they
In a nutshell, if you
push, preach or project your views or beliefs,
you'll only seem self-righteous and you'll likely be met with
And, remember, if you
don't want people to judge you, don't judge them!
Consider that when the time is right, you might want to share a
book or article on a particular topic or you might even
introduce a new concept through a third party approach.
For instance, you
might say something like,
"My friend 'so
and so' told me about an amazing experience she had at a
meditation group," or, "I just read this book about some
interesting new ideas."
And, then, if your
words are received with an inquisitive response, do your best to
share more information in a relaxed and inviting manner -
without expecting a specific response or outcome.
Introducing someone to more conscious concepts is often a
process that takes time, but, if you're patient and
non-judgmental, and you wait for the right opportunities, the
"long game" has been known to pay off in surprising ways.
- Maintain Your Consciousness
As consciousness rises and we awaken, our vibration naturally
However, until we're
anchored in a higher state of consciousness, vibration can
easily fluctuate. Therefore, when you relate to less conscious
people, be careful not to compromise your vibration by lowering
your consciousness to meet theirs.
So, rather than allowing your high vibration to be influenced by
someone's lower vibration, you must be responsible for your own
energy, and this means that it's important to avoid 3 major
people often want to enroll us in their reality, and
once we believe their stories of victimhood or scarcity,
our high vibe entrains with their low vibe - and we end
up feeling very, very bad.
Say "No" to
We might also
lower our vibration and take on someone's energy if we
feel sorry for them or judge their experience.
if we believe that it's our job to change someone's
negative circumstances or if we believe that we are
responsible for making them feel better, we
automatically take on their energy and align with their
Overall, in order to
maintain a high vibration while interacting with less conscious
people, avoid getting enrolled in anyone's story, replace
judgment and sympathy with compassion, and never take
responsibility for another person's experience.
In a nutshell, the more you cultivate and maintain a high
vibration, the less likely your vibration will be "pulled down"
and the more likely others can "tune up" to your vibration,
thereby helping them awaken.
Even though it can be quite challenging to communicate with less
conscious people, keep in mind that the more conscious person in
any relationship is responsible for the tone of the
Therefore, blaming an
unconscious person for making you feel bad is not only useless,
it's also disempowering for both of you, and, consequently,
there's no way to improve the dynamics of the relationship.
You just never
know who's waking-up!
So, you know all those people you thought would never wake-up?
Well, they're waking up
too and they may be hiding in the closet just like you! For
instance, a dear friend once told me that I was the only one he
could really talk to because all his other friends were still
Well, one day, I met one
of his friends privately, and after spending the better part of a
day walking on Venice Beach and talking openly, he confided that I
was the only person he could really talk to because everyone he knew
was still asleep.
"How interesting!" I
Now, here were two good
friends, both feeling alone and alienated, and yet, they were too
afraid to speak openly with one another.
But, of course, this
isn't an isolated situation. Since then, I have witnessed the same
dynamic many times over. Needless to say, the moral of the story is
that you just never know who might be awakening.
So, maybe you too know people who are secretly awakening, and maybe
like you, they're also hiding in the Consciousness Closet, and if
so, this could mean that some of the people you're hiding from might
also be hiding from you.
Over the years, I've discovered that when people outwardly protest
new ideas or quietly show signs of non-verbal judgment, such as
rolling their eyes, they're actually listening to what's being said.
In fact, when people
negatively react to new ideas, those ideas are often recorded in
their subconscious minds for later playback, and this means that
when the time is right, they'll remember what you said.
Since we can never know what seeps into someone's consciousness, I
say let the "eye rollers" roll their eyes and let the "naysayers"
say their nays!
But, remember, most of all, even if someone rejects your ideas, it
doesn't mean that they are rejecting you - so don't take anything
Believe it or not, it's
none of your business what anyone thinks about you anyway!
So, if you want to "be the change you want to see in the world," the
first step is coming out of closet and sharing your