From an energetic perspective,
that's because we're all interconnected to one another and we're
vulnerable to other people's frequencies.
It's not uncommon for
people to leave a one night stand feeling exhausted, "dirty," or
simply unlike themselves.
...but it could also have a lot to do with the energetic implications of having sex!
Furthermore, it is said that when you have sex with someone, their aura leaves an imprint on you that is difficult to energetically cleanse yourself from.
So, what does this
mean in terms of modern sex culture, where it's not uncommon to
sleep with multiple people?
This is because your aura connects with your
partner's during sex and you exchange energies with one another, so
your energy is usually slightly different after having sex. If you
have sex with someone with a high vibration, intercourse could raise
your vibration; likewise, if you have sex with someone with a low
vibration, sex could lower your own.
Any feelings of guilt
are ultimately a product of the ego, causing us to judge ourselves
for our actions. Experiencing guilt after sex is also a feeling
perpetuated by society, especially in relation to women, as female
sexual energy was suppressed and discouraged by society for a very
long time, and still is in some parts of the world.
Even though we are susceptible to other people's
energies, at the end of the day, we can control our own frequencies,
but in order to do so we must observe what's affecting our energy in
the first place.
To be clear, we should never judge anyone, and if you think you're
residing on a higher vibration than others, that could potentially
be your ego talking, not your soul.
doesn't mean you're going to have all of the same interests or be at
the same stage in life, but maybe you're giving off similar
frequencies. The best you can do is to not judge others and trust
your intuition, because ultimately your soul knows.
I believe sex can be
used as a tool to deepen our inherent love and connection to one
another and to ourselves. We are so much more than our physical
bodies and sex is a lot more than just two bodies colliding for
pleasure and reproductive purposes.
I think that sex is meant to be an intensely spiritual practice, one that can sometimes offer you more pleasure than the actual orgasm itself through practicing tantra.
Tantric Sex and Taoism
Tantra is the Sanskrit word for 'woven together,' and through the study and practice of it, you can come to understand yourself and your partner better on a spiritual level.
After all, by exploring yourself sexually, whether that's on your own or with a partner, you're ultimately just learning more about yourself, and thus more about Source.
Both tantra and Taoism encourage different methods of creating and building sexual energies between two partners for spiritual enlightenment.
Although tantric sex is typically practiced with a partner, I believe that, through this practice, you can come to understand yourself better.
In fact, a neuroscientist recently conducted a study which suggests that orgasms feel so good because they allow us to access an altered state of consciousness.
One of the ancient practices within Taoism is controlling the male ejaculation during sex.
Taoist practitioners believe that the loss of ejaculatory fluids equates with the loss of vital life force (or "jing"), so by learning to conserve the sperm, men can redirect the energy of the orgasm throughout the body.
In a world where the goal of sex is often only to get the male to ejaculate, these Taoist practices would be valuable to experiment with.
This doesn't mean that men should never orgasm; it's simply a spiritual concept worth practicing on occasion that can actually bring more pleasure, when practiced correctly, than ejaculation.
Some Taoists believe that by redirecting the energy upwards toward the crown chakra, it can provide nourishment to the brain. In modern sex culture, some people refer to this as "edging," although many men may do this for different reasons.
Women can also redirect their sexual energy by moving it upwards, and play with different breath work techniques, although this wasn't studied in ancient religions nearly as much.
However, sex was viewed as an empowering act for females, as they can bring forth life and act as "tutors" for their partners during intimacy.
Women were and still should be viewed as equals to men during sex, so it should be noted that these practices are only useful when both parties are consensual.
Whether you're having sex or not, or regardless of who your sexual partner is, you should still try consciously cleansing yourself from other people's energies.
Even if it's "positive" energy, at the end of the day, the only energy you want lingering around you is your own.
How to Cleanse Your Aura
It's scientifically proven that all of our bodies emit an electromagnetic field, commonly referred to as an "aura," which plays a very important role in understanding our biology and the interconnectedness we share with all life.
Here's how you can cleanse your aura (after sex or just in general):
I'm not saying you shouldn't sleep with anyone, nor am I saying you should only sleep with people who are completely similar to you.
I believe we can learn a lot from really diverse partners, but it's still important to be mindful of this information and how it affects us at an individual and soul level.
Sex is a much bigger and more complex topic than the mainstream media and porn industry make it out to be.
Sex can be messy or enlightening, emotional or detached, grounding or invigorating; but no matter, it's always both physical and energetic, which is why it's so important to cleanse ourselves afterwards.
Sex isn't about what it looks like, it's about the feeling you get, the energetic shift you experience, and the intimacy you share with your partner.
We are so much more than our physical bodies, and believe it or not, sex can actually teach us that! Expressing ourselves sexually can not only improve our connections to our partners, but our connections with ourselves as well.
Who knows, maybe in searching for a better sex life, you'll end up finding yourself along the way...