by Gary 'Z' McGee
May 21, 2018
from WakingTimes Website

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"A man who is intimate with his anger

and who can express it skillfully

is a man in whom forcefulness

coexists with vulnerability and compassion,

a man worthy of our trust,

a man capable of deep intimacy."

Robert Augustus Masters
 

Anger is not the problem. Anger is a vital tool.

It's what you do with your anger that becomes problematic. It's your response to anger, that makes it healthy or not. Anger can be a tool toward leveraging courage into your life or it can be a weapon that violently destroys everything.

It can be a fire that makes you stronger or it can be a fire that consumes you.

The worst thing you can do is repress your anger. Repressed anger almost always comes back as a chaotic inner-demon. The best thing you can do is embrace your anger in the moment.

Sit at the feet of it and learn what it must teach. Then proactively transform that information into a healthy response.

Here are four types of healthy anger that will help you do precisely that.

1.) Compassionate Anger
 

"Research indicates that

when we're angry at others,

we aim for retaliation or revenge.

But when we're angry for others,

we seek out justice and a better system.

We don't just want to punish;

we want to help."

Adam Grant

Compassionate anger is all about seeking justice for a better system.

Not only for yourself but for others as well. It's a deep understanding that everything is connected, and an even deeper understanding that your anger is a healthy response toward injustice.

A sound strategy for channeling your anger is to focus on ways in which you can use it to help rather than punish others.

Rather than violent, offensive acts of vengeful anger for the satisfaction of your ego; practice nonviolent, defensive acts of compassionate anger for a cause greater than yourself.

Self-defense and the defense of others less capable is subsumed by compassionate anger. Compassionate anger for a cause greater than yourself is the epitome of transforming fire into fuel.

It takes the raw fire of your fierce passion and turns it into focused fuel that will give you the courage and fierceness needed to act for the good of the whole.

2.) Vulnerable Anger

"To be human

is necessarily to be a vulnerable risk-taker;

to be a courageous human

is to be good at it."

Jonathan Lear
 

Anger that feigns invulnerability is reactive and inauthentic. It's locked down and divisive.

There's no intimacy. There's no connection between cause and effect, between healthy and unhealthy.

This type of anger is all surface. It's volatile and irrational, congealed wrath and repressed rage. Typically associated with a narrow-minded, codependent mindset.

Vulnerable anger, on the other hand, is a deep intimacy with anger. It's authentic and beholden to cause and effect. It's soft and malleable, resilient and robust. It's transformative.

There's an emotional flexibility that is tantamount to alchemy. Typically associated with a broad-minded, interdependent mindset.

When we're vulnerable with our anger it resolves itself and fills us with the courage to act.

When we're invulnerable with our anger it's unresolved and it becomes repressed while filling us with reactive angst.

3.) Moral Anger
 

"Anger is not just fire

but moral fire,

protecting what is weak

or vulnerable or broken inside us

Robert Augustus Masters
 

Sometimes anger is not only the natural reaction, but the only moral reaction.

For example:

we should not be expected to remain content and happy in the face of genocide, ecocide, rape and slavery. Rather, we should be compelled toward righteous anger.

The type of righteous anger that flips over tables like Christ did against the greedy bankers. The type of sacred anger that would rather live a hard life of freedom than an easy life of slavery.

Such anger is sacred precisely because it instills in us an unstoppable courage.

Moral anger is heart anger. It strikes at the root of the issue. It measures injustice against the Golden Rule, the Nonaggression Principle and Universal Law, and what doesn't measure up is met with ruthless (but nonviolent) courageous resistance.

Moral anger, felt deep in the heart and the gut, is a healthy response to immoral action.

4.) Mindful Anger
 

"All things excellent

are as difficult as they are rare."

Spinoza
 

Being mindful of our anger is practicing mindfulness meditation as an act of deliberately allowing anger to surface so it can be examined and released in a productive way before it becomes toxic.

Mindful anger is a pathway to emotional resilience and a higher EQ.

It's meditative and healing, reminiscent and cathartic. It honors the wounds of the past in the alchemical present so that they may become the wisdom of tomorrow.

Mindful anger goes Meta with anger. It's a broad picture perspective that dissects the animal of our anger through cathartic interrogation and deep analysis.

It pinpoints the source of combustion. It breathes out the fire of anger so that we may breathe in the fuel of life.

At the end of the day, anger is a tool. Albeit a volatile one. Like the way a craftsman practices with a dangerous table saw to improve his/her craft, a Soul-craftsman practices with dangerous anger to improve his/her life.

The better we get at using the tool, the better our art will be. Whether that art is carpentry or our life.

Anger, and our response to it, does not have to be so one-dimensional. There's nothing, besides our conditioning, preventing us from using our anger in multidimensional ways.

If we can make a point of practicing compassionate, vulnerable, moral and mindful anger then we can recondition our conditioning and perhaps even come up with even healthier ways of channeling this most fickle and elusive of passions...