Change with Excitement and Curiosity
What is the first emotion you feel when you suddenly face an
unexpected change that doesn't have a known outcome? (basically
you don't yet know whether it's good or bad).
For most people, fear
or anxiety is the first thing that comes up.
Fear of the unknown
is one of the deepest and most pervasive of fears. If you let
this fear overcome you, it starts creating negative thought
patterns and other unwanted self-sabotaging patterns.
Positive people usually get immediately excited about the
prospect of change because their view on life is, in general, an
optimistic one and therefore they expect that good things will
happen more often than bad.
They might initially
hesitate for a while but then cheer themselves up and end up
looking forward to it. They embrace change. They get curious.
Curiosity is an
important trait to have because it engenders movement and the
power to get out of a comfort zone.
Patterns that Create Stagnation
People who are most likely to deal effectively with change
implicitly know that life is in constant movement and they
cannot stop and gather moss.
They need to move and
circulate the energy around, whether it's the energy of their
thoughts, money, body, work, etc. This is a secret very few
people know and follow consciously.
Stagnation goes against life because life is - by its own nature
When they face
unexpected change, they make an effort to flow with it and keep
themselves from getting stagnant. By stagnation, I mean
following the same thought patterns and doing the same things.
So these people think
sideways, try new things, follow new paths or divert their
attention away from the same patterns.
movement and the power to get out
of a comfort zone.
They own and take response-ability of how they are affected by a
Resilient people know
that how they respond emotionally to life is everything.
Experience is not something that happens to them but something
they make out of a situation.
This simple but basic attitude changes everything and most
certainly, it helps you deal with any form of change and
disruption. When you are emotionally responsible you do not
blame life or others. You try to find new ways to look at things
In fact, people who
are emotionally intelligent find it instinctive to quickly
change the energy of a situation, or people around them, by
first changing how they feel about it.
They know that
responding negatively or falling victim to their own emotions is
not helpful and will ultimately stop them from moving forward
and adapting to change.
Perspective is key because it can change your feelings, attitude
Give two people the
same situation and they will respond to it differently, if their
perspective is different. Difficulty can become a useful
challenge and an opportunity to learn. Disappointment can become
a life lesson that teaches more about self mastery.
Everything can be turned around with the right perspective.
Successful people will always look for the right perspective to
get a better angle on an apparent problem.
A sudden change can
be turned into a springboard that helps you leap forward, if
seen from the right perspective.
Everything can be turned around
the right perspective.
5. Knowing and
Respecting One's Fears
We often hear the cliché of facing one's own fears.
I think this is
sometimes interpreted as being confrontational or aggressive.
Successful people don't bust their fears. Nobody really does.
They understand them more, and respect them for what they are,
but make it a point not to be controlled by them.
In fact, mentally strong people are ones who have a healthy
They do not push
their fears away and they don't fight or resist them either.
They are just more conscious of which of those fears are holding
them back, and understanding them.
They befriend them,
they talk to them and they might even give them names.
In the end, they
dance to the music of life by recognizing their fears and
overcoming them (not fighting them) through self love, courage
6. Keeping the
Faith in One's Self
The last point above brings me to the following.
To successfully deal
with the currents of life, you have to most of all keep faith in
yourself. Know that you have all the resources needed to deal
with any life situation.
Do not be sidetracked
by your mind that tries to make you believe you are inadequate
or that you need something from somewhere, or someone, to solve
a problem. You don't.
People who successfully deal with change and crisis, time after
time, believe that they always have the resources to push
They do not look
outwards for answers - they look inwards. They have faith that
they will always look into themselves and summon up the courage,
the ideas, the will, the attitude, the answer.
They believe that
they are connected to a creative life force that they can always
tap into, without any consensus from anyone.
Mentally strong people
befriend their fears
and try to understand them.
7. Self Love
'Self love' is always misjudged by many because it sounds
selfish or narcissistic. It certainly isn't.
Quite the contrary,
self-love is the key to opening up to the world, and others,
with kindness and compassion. Self-love means being open to
You allow yourself to
be human, to err, lose and find yourself again. Most of all, it
means not to be harsh to yourself by criticizing or judging all
This would only
create a negative internal dialogue that would generate more
negative thought patterns.
As mentioned earlier on, successful people have a healthy
internal dialogue. They communicate with their subconscious and
their feelings/emotions in a positive way - lovingly and
accepting. They don't judge themselves; they just learn and move
So when the going
gets tough and the world around you changes too quickly, the
first step is to love yourself more.
8. Trusting Life
This is very close to the first point, where I mentioned that
resilient people are optimistic about change and unknown
They do not cocoon
themselves in but open up their arms and trust the flow of life.
They are, in general, optimistic because they choose to believe
that life is supportive and not conspiring against them.
If bad things happen, they change perspective, take emotional
responsibility and move on.
But they do not lose
trust in life because they know that once their attitude and
perspective is good, life will respond and support them all the