by Mateo Sol
living out your fate
or creating your
destiny are both terms that
tend to be used interchangeably in conversations.
We hear people saying "He
met his fate" and "It must be her destiny" - but,
have you ever
wondered that the actual differences between fate
and destiny are?
What is Fate?
"Fate" comes from the Latin word Fatum meaning,
"that which has been
Therefore, through the
ages, fate has come to be associated with that which has been
predetermined for our lives.
Fate is based on the
notion that there is a natural order in the Universe which cannot be
changed, no matter how hard we try.
The ancient Greeks and
Romans even believed that three goddesses called,
...(or the "Three
Fates") had the role of determining a person's ultimate
Overall, fate tends to have pretty negative connotations. For
example, people who experience misfortune often tend to believe that
fate is the cause.
Pessimistic terms such as
"to seal one's fate" and "a fate worse than death" all suggest that
fate is something undesirable and negative.
Spiritually, fate is what occurs when we ignore our life calling and
don't actively work to reconnect with
our souls or True Nature.
When we leave our lives up to fate, we are basically handing over
the reigns of control to other people and outside circumstances.
When we don't put any
effort into consciously changing and evolving, what happens is fate.
Destiny has much more positive connotations than fate.
Deriving from the Latin
word Destinare, destiny means,
"that which has been
While this definition
also refers to the idea of predetermined events, destiny is
something we can actively shape and alter.
Unlike fate, there is an
element of choice in destiny.
Qualities such as
courage, compassion, willpower, and patience can all help to
change your destiny.
is intimately connected to our ultimate life path.
When we choose to step up
and take responsibility for our lives, then we are actively shaping
our destiny instead of leaving our lives to fate.
Fulfilling our destiny
involves consciously developing a connection to our deepest inner
selves and maturing on an emotional, mental, and spiritual level.
Difference Between Fate and Destiny?
Fate is that which
you cannot change.
Destiny is that which
you're meant to do.
While fate is what
happens when you don't take responsibility for your life,
destiny is what happens when you commit to growing, learning,
and taking chances.
Being "destined for
greatness" only comes through active and conscious decisions.
But fate is what happens
when you let other people and external circumstance dictate your
Do We Have Control?
Fate and destiny can be perceived as two sides of the same coin:
But the important thing
to remember is that there are infinite possibilities in life.
Fulfilling our destiny
means consciously directing the stream of our lives in a certain
direction. While subjectively (to
the ego) this means that we have
control and choice, objectively, there is no such
thing as control or choice because the concept of "me" and "you"
don't exist (except in the mind).
So the answer to the question "do we have control" is paradoxical:
we 'do' and we 'do not'
However, while we are
still operating on the level of having a sense of self (ego), it is
vital that we proactively work to step up and take responsibility
for our destiny.
How to Fulfill
As long as you are consciously seeking to learn, grow, and
spiritually evolve, you are fulfilling your destiny.
However, if you're
wanting to achieve your highest potential, you might benefit from
the following tips:
There are so many
free resources out there (including this website) which can
help you understand who you are better. Our free tests
section is a great place to start.
Find out what
you're passionate about
What sets your
soul on fire? What excites and thrills you? What do you
admire and deeply enjoy doing? Make sure you keep doing
whatever fulfills you.
with supportive people who inspire you
judgmental people often trigger huge amounts of self-doubt
actually listen to these unsupportive people who tell us how
to "live our lives," resulting in us choosing the wrong life
in your life who are negative influences and remove them or
reduce contact. Seek out kind, inspiring, and empathetic
to move out of your comfort zone
biggest life changes occur when we make bold decisions.
fulfilling your destiny means getting a little bit
uncomfortable or even making a terrifying leap of faith.
Whatever the case, make sure you listen to your intuition
and also use logic where necessary.
When we believe
our thoughts, we experience anger, insecurity, sadness,
shame, and anxiety.
The number one
greatest block most people experience when trying to fulfill
their destiny are core beliefs. Core beliefs are the main
ideas we carry about ourselves which we were conditioned to
believe since birth.
beliefs include "I am unworthy," "I am stupid," "I am a bad
person," and "I don't deserve happiness."
Ask other people
You don't need to
travel your journey alone. If you need some guidance, seek
out help from a loved one, counselor or spiritual teacher.
People who have
walked this path before you can share a lot of wisdom which
will benefit you greatly. I like to say a simple prayer
asking for guidance when I need help.
have to be religious - you can pray to Life, the Universe,
Spirit, the Mystery, or whatever moves you.
Make a list of
all your strengths
practice can help to direct your energy in a more
sustainable and beneficial way.
setbacks are normal
There is no such
thing as failure, only learning opportunities. If something
doesn't go your way, take a deep breath and realize that
sometimes life wants us to move in a different direction.
Goals are clearly
defined milestones which can help you to get organized and
prioritize what is most important to you.
The more love and
compassion you show towards yourself, the more you are
naturally moving towards your ultimate destiny.
Be mindful of
negative and critical thoughts and let them pass without
attaching to them.
There has never
been a person exactly like you on the face of this planet,
imitating other people, explore what comes most naturally to
you. There are too many people out there copycatting others.
Explore your own style. Enjoy the peace that comes with not
having to be someone you're not.
"What do I want the most in life?" and direct all of your
attention towards fulfilling that goal
Do you want
freedom, peace of mind, love?
When all's said
and done, everything returns back to the desire for
happiness. However, remember that chasing happiness actually
never be found in the past or future: it can only ever be
found now, in the present moment.
further refine the question, you might like to ask yourself
"How can I enjoy life right now, in the present moment?"